Result Oriented Project Management for Afghanistan مدیریت پروژه نتیجه گرا برای افغانستان

Childish Solutions to the Most Difficult Problems of the World

Last night I was sitting in front of the turned off TV with all my children who are afraid to be born because the world is too dangerous for them and my wife who was murdered in Russian – American war in Afghanistan when she was 6 years old.

We talked about the political problems of Ukraine, Afghanistan, Iraq, Syria … the children did not understand the situation and asked for a simple explanation of the main problem.

I told them that they are the names of small small houses and there is money inside those houses. Now the question is who should go and get the money and stay in those houses?

Different people are fighting with each other to go there and get that money but the others create problems for them. They kill each other and also destroy those houses. One of them creates a big black devil machine called Salifan. It kills hundreds of men every day. The other one creates Laeish, an automatic nuclear machine which kills thousands of other men at once who want to go there.

They are all sending killing machines there in those small houses.
“Why?” asked a small kid. They can’t find a better solution?
No, they can’t. I replied.

“What if they make a running competition for each gang leader and whoever wins the game, should be given the right to go and live in those houses and get all those money? This would be a peaceful manner to stop killing human beings and it will also help all people to understand each other and respect the victory of one person in that game.” said the kid.

Red Light Street

A friend of mine came from Afghanistan and I took him out for a city tour. He asked me what the best thing here is in this city that I have to see. “As it is the first time travel to Europe, I want to show you something that you have never seen in your life” I told him.

I took him to the Red Light Street. It was a real Cultural Shock when we got there. He did not want to look at the naked girls behind the glass showcase of the windows. “It is Harram (prohibited) to look at the naked bodies of the girls” he said. “I have been fighting with the vicious inner desires of mine for a long time and protected my eyes from looking at bad scenes and now you are making me feel guilty” he continued while he was looking only at the ground or sometimes at the sky to protect his eyes from looking at the naked girls.

“Common, it is Haram there because the parents and the brothers of the girls would and mind if you look their daughter or sister and it will create social problems and here nobody objects of you look at them and everybody they like to show their bodies to you” I told him.

Guest visitor: How do you know that their families would not mind this situation? Maybe they don’t know about it … I am sure there are no parents in this world who would raise a child to be a prostitute in the future … if they are forced to do this prostitution due to poverty, then it would be even a bigger sin for me to look at them.

Host and the city tour guide: Common man! Please look at them. I brought you here to look around and enjoy but now you are judging me because of that and that is making me feel so sad … I am sorry that I brought you here without telling you first … I should have told you first about it and then we could come here only if you wanted to see …

Guest visitor: No, it is ok … please don’t feel that way about it.

Host and the city tour guide: Let’s see. Why don’t you talk to one them and ask all these questions from them? There is only one person with top clothes on her and shorts. She is the most beautiful woman in this street. Only her legs are visible and that is a normal thing here because you see many people walking on the streets with shorts. Would you look at her and talk to her?

Guest visitor: You are like a Satan … you are somehow encouraging me to look at them and to talk to them anyways (he smiles). But the problem is not for me to look at them or not to look at them. The question is whether I want to create such a moral code of conduct for myself and the people around me like “men are allowed to look at the naked body of women who belong to other families”. If I look at them, for me it means that I will accept others to look at my family members the same way. Do you remember the Dari proverb “Do not like for others whatever you don’t like for yourself”.

Host and the city tour guide: Let’s go and talk to her and ask all your questions directly from her, is that OK?

Guest visitor: No, I don’t want to go there and I don’t want to talk to her. I am here for a week and then I will go back to Afghanistan and you know that I don’t have good stories about you and here to say to my family. You know it well that lying is also Harram (prohibited) and I don’t want to lie to my family. What would I tell to my family about you when I go back there? I have no choice to tell them that you drank a beer and took me to the Red Light Street. You have changed a lot and if I tell say all these things there in Afghanistan, I don’t think that daughter of my uncle would agree to get married with you.